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  • Gentle Parenting introduction.
  • Strategies to prevent tantrums and outbursts.
  • Techniques to keep your cool during difficult parenting moments.
  • How to discipline your child so they learn to desire to do the right thing.

 

Gentle Parenting is the long term discipline strategy so many parents are longing for. If you feel like tradition punishments just don't work, you'll be excited to learn the strategies that do. Gentle Foundations will teach you how to discipline with love and respect, without becoming a permissive parent.

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What's in the course?

  • Gentle Parenting introduction.
  • Strategies to prevent tantrums and outbursts.
  • Techniques to keep your cool during difficult parenting moments.
  • How to discipline your child so they learn to desire to do the right thing.

 

Gentle Parenting is the long term discipline strategy so many parents are longing for. If you feel like tradition punishments just don't work, you'll be excited to learn the strategies that do. Gentle Foundations will teach you how to discipline with love and respect, without becoming a permissive parent.

Lizzy Mash, Course Creator

How to Support Your New Mom Friend

by | Dec 17, 2018 | Motherhood | 0 comments

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(This post was originally published as an email to The Moving Mama Email List. To get first access to tips, inspiration and free stuff sign up here.)

Hey there mama, how’s it going today?

This week on the blog I wrote a piece about the gut feelings many first time moms feel and why we should embrace them. If you’re no stranger to Attachment Parenting then you already know how important this gut feeling can be.

So many new moms out there are bombarded with some truly terrible advice about how to take care of their baby. Do you remember any advice you were given that totally went against your motherly instincts?

When you’re a new mom it can definitely feel overwhelming as you adjust to your new role as a mother, and a lot of moms look for help from their doctor, friends or online, but unfortunately the most common advice could be that the mother should do something against her instincts.

As Gentle moms, or Attachment Parenting moms, we need to do our best to help out other moms. To be a voice that supports her instincts and encourages her to do what feels right with her baby. New moms need encouragement and love!

So how do you support a new mom without just throwing the millionth piece of unasked for advice in her face?

#1. Ask her how she is really doing

When you are visiting your new mama friend ask her how she is really coping with the changes. You don’t need to offer her any advice but allow her to talk. Giving her this opportunity to express herself might help her solve her problem on her own. If there is anyway you can help her out then try to do so. You can ask if you could throw in a load of laundry for her, or if she’d like to take a nap while you hold the little bundle of joy.

#2. Tell her about some of your own struggles

A lot of new moms feel like all eyes are on them, especially all the experienced moms eyes. She might feel like she has to prove that she knows what she’s doing. You can offer her some advice by giving it through your own story. Tell her how hopelessly tired you were until you discovered safe bedsharing, or how your house was a total mess for the first month of your child’s life because they wanted to be held all the time and you allowed that.

#3. Give her new information to read

Your new mom friend might already be sitting on her phone a lot anyways if she’s always holding the sleeping babe, so you could send her to any interesting blogs that helped you out when you were starting Attachment Parenting. This allows her to read the new information at her own pace and not to feel like you’re just giving her one more piece of advice she never asked for. One of my favourite blogs is Mama Natural, so I would definitely suggest that to any new mom friend

Just remember, everyone is different

If Attachment Parenting isn’t your new mom friends cup of tea then she might not be interested in some of what you have to say, and the best thing is to just respect that and be sure she knows there is no judgement.

Moms need to be able to encourage and support each other even if they make really different parenting choices, so make sure to express love and not judgement if she makes choices really different from yours.

The Moving Mama

The Moving Mama

Lizzy Mash is an experienced early childhood educator now living in Africa as a missionary working with children and families.

She teaches Christian moms how to take a more respectful and Christ-like approach to motherhood by using Gentle Parenting strategies.

Read more about Lizzy here >>

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