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What's in the course?

  • Gentle Parenting introduction.
  • Strategies to prevent tantrums and outbursts.
  • Techniques to keep your cool during difficult parenting moments.
  • How to discipline your child so they learn to desire to do the right thing.

 

Gentle Parenting is the long term discipline strategy so many parents are longing for. If you feel like tradition punishments just don't work, you'll be excited to learn the strategies that do. Gentle Foundations will teach you how to discipline with love and respect, without becoming a permissive parent.

Lizzy Mash, Course Creator

Having Mom Confidence Isn’t Easy!

by | Oct 17, 2017 | Motherhood | 0 comments

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Motherhood is filled with so many emotions – you’d think a great deal of these emotions come from our children (joy in seeing them grow, etc.) but as I entered motherhood I found that a lot of emotions come from our interactions with other people – but now as a mom. I didn’t have the mom confidence I needed, not at first anyways.

If you’re a mom, you can probably relate to this. In pregnancy, people are totally invading your personal space, after you have the baby everyone has advice for you, and even long into motherhood you end up comparing yourself to others, and intentionally bringing yourself down.

For me, as a new mom, I really started to feel like I wasn’t good enough, and that my decisions weren’t what were best for my daughter. I really started to doubt myself as I made decision, after decision, that wasn’t exactly “mainstream.” I was being a very intentional mother, but I felt like the world around me was labelling me as, “over cautious,” “helicopter parent” or “coddling.”

I am not those things. I know I am not those things. But that’s what I heard, and that’s what I started to believe about myself.

I did not expect to have this feeling. I am generally pretty confident of my decisions, and not only that, I am an early childhood educator! I have a pretty good handle on what is, and isn’t, beneficial for a young one’s development. A random person on the internet shouldn’t be able to change what I believe… right?

So often, a passing comment could end up hurting me and sitting with me for a long time. “Maybe I’m not doing what’s best for my daughter,” I would start to wonder. “Maybe I should just do what everyone else is doing?” A few times I actually tried to do things differently, because that’s how much doubt I had. I would instantly regret it, as it left both me, and baby, unhappy. I was making good decisions for my girl, but my confidence was constantly being rocked.

It was exhausting.

One day I realized that I was really lacking confidence in my mothering decisions, and this wasn’t good. On paper, I knew my decisions were perfect for my daughter and family, but someone would say something, and I would start to doubt myself. I decided it was time for that to end.

I realized the only way to be confident was to really believe in my decisions. So I took to books and Google, and would read support for my choices, that way, next time someone rejected my opinions I could shrug it off without allowing their opinion to shake me.

The truth is, there is no perfect way to be a mommy. There are definitely wrong ways, but those are basically illegal, so no need to get into those. The problem is, there are a lot of alternatives, some may be better than the others but for the most part, there is a lot of grey area when it comes to finding what’s best in parenting. So what works best for one family, might not work best for another.

One challenge many mothers face is whether they formula feed or breastfeed. This is a huge topic. Breastfeeding moms can be shamed for breastfeeding in public, for breastfeeding for too long (even breastfeeding at 6 months can be frowned upon by some). Formula feeding moms probably have it much worse though – shamed for choosing formula, or for not being able to breastfeed, shamed for using formula so they could return to work. The judgement is surreal.

Neither formula feeding or breastfeeding is wrong, or “the best,” because it depends on the situation. They both have pros and cons which must be weighed by the individual families before they can decide what’s best for them – not what’s best for everyone else watching what they will decide.

I think we need to end this cycle.

Moms need to support each other, and we all probably need to butt out of each other’s business. Motherhood should be filled with joy, love, and growth – not worry and doubt. I would much rather concentrate my energy on loving my daughter. It is still a constant battle to protect myself from doubting my decisions, but at least now I can stand on guard and protect my heart.

I might not be a perfect mom, but I at least strive to be a confident one.

The Moving Mama

The Moving Mama

Lizzy Mash is an experienced early childhood educator now living in Africa as a missionary working with children and families.

She teaches Christian moms how to take a more respectful and Christ-like approach to motherhood by using Gentle Parenting strategies.

Read more about Lizzy here >>

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