How to Wait on God During Hard Times
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“Everything will work out in the end,” How many times have we heard those words, and even though we knew it might be true we just did NOT want to hear them? There are times in our lives where we go through challenges and there is nothing we can really “do” about it, and I feel that this is even more true for women than for men. If we believe in God and surround ourselves with other Christians it’s likely that we will often hear people telling us to wait on God…but what does that actually look like and how do we do that?
First, let us look at what the Bible says about waiting.
I wait for the LORD, my soul waits, and in his word I hope; my soul waits for the LORD more than watchmen for the morning, more than watchmen for the morning. Psalm 130:5-6
Wait for the LORD; be strong. And let your heart take courage; wait for the LORD! Psalm 27:14
But they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31
Waiting is the Hardest Part
Let me just go right out and say it, waiting isn’t easy, especially when we live in a world that wants to be as instant as possible. We don’t want to wait for a movie to buffer, we don’t want to have to park to wait for our fast food through drive thru, we want things right away. Unfortunately, not everything in this life is going to be instant and we do have to wait. The Bible is filled with encouragement though like some of the verses I just listed. We need to wait on God, being impatient with God really won’t make things happen any faster because God has a plan and a time for everything, and that’s why it’s important that while we wait we also trust.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6
Trusting God is an important part of waiting
Trusting can give us the patience we need to endure waiting for a long time. I think the greatest lesson I ever had in waiting was when I was pregnant with my daughter. I so badly wanted to meet her and see her sweet face, but I trusted that she needed to stay inside me for those 9 months. I knew that she would have her best chance to be healthy and strong if she could go full term, and she did and I thank God for that, even though it was a long wait.
Not everything is as straight forward as pregnancy though, sometimes we have to wait through really difficult situations and we don’t know if it really will work out in the end. We wait and we wait and we don’t know what God is doing or when He is going to do it, and to be honest it’s painful. As human beings we want to do something to contribute, we always say, “I wish there was something I could do,” but sometimes we just have to wait. And wait. And wait. While we wait there is always one thing we can do though, and that is to pray.
Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12
We can pray!
Pray for the situation at hand, and we can pray for our own patience as we wait and walk through the valley. It is inevitable that in our lives we will go through trials, and we cannot necessarily avoid those instances but we can handle them wisely by staying close to the Lord instead of doubting or turning from Him. We must be patient in our tribulation, knowing that God has a plan. Praying can be hard when we are going through difficult times though because we can start to feel frustrated and discouraged, and often times when we feel that way we avoid God but instead we should go directly to Him to handle such things. We must trust Him, even in the pain. If you want to start using God’s names in your prayers here’s a free printable to keep on hand.
Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before him; God is a refuge for us. Psalm 62:8
I love this idea of pouring your heart out before God
It is so necessary. I for one know that I am a very emotional person and my emotions will build up inside of me if I don’t process them properly. Sometimes I process my emotions in different ways but the most important way is by being honest with God with what I am feeling. God shows me how to handle these feelings, He comforts me in the pain. When I am worried God reminds me by His word that He will take care of everything and I don’t need to worry. We all go through different trials, and sometimes it’s hard because we can feel like no one can relate to our pain, but all of us have access to a God who understands our hearts completely, and we should go to Him even in our tears, when we don’t know what to do or what is going to happen, we should cry out to God and bring ourselves closer to Him and wait for the storm to pass.
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1
Being with God is a very safe place to be.
I said at the beginning that I feel as women we can more often be in situations where we feel there is nothing we can “do” about it. If we are living the role of a Christian wife who submits to her husband sometimes we can feel like we don’t have control over the situation and I find this to be true for a lot of women struggling in today’s world. I have heard the pain of so many women whose husbands have cheated on them, continue to cheat on them, and refuse to go to counseling. It’s frustrating as a wife to love a man so much who will not commit to fixing the marriage and wanting so badly ourselves to fix it but knowing it takes two people. To those women, my heart aches for you for such pain you must feel, and I know it may feel like generic advice but I call you to wait upon the Lord. Wait for Him with a trusting attitude, wait on Him KNOWING He will take care of the situation one way or another. Rejoice in the Lord, even when other things are going badly, just know that God is good, all the time.
My sisters, do not give up when times are bad and do not look away from the Father.
He will provide for you, that is why He is called Jehovah-Jireh, the Lord who provides (LINK). Have faith and take these Scriptures to heart. Wait with patience and wait knowing you may have to wait for a long time. I wish I could promise you that things will turn out the way you want them to, but no one can make that promise. I can, however, guarantee you though that God will not leave you in your suffering, He will be there for you and you need to trust Him. He has a plan, and it might not be possible for you right now to predict the outcome but there will be one. Every season of our life will come to an end, and if you are going through a hard season now then stay close to God and you will make it through.
As we have read some Isaiah 40, wait on the Lord and He will give you new strength. Do not wait alone without hope, wait with our Lord.
The Moving Mama
Lizzy Mash is an experienced early childhood educator now living in Africa as a missionary working with children and families.
She teaches Christian moms how to take a more respectful and Christ-like approach to motherhood by using Gentle Parenting strategies.