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What's in the course?

  • Gentle Parenting introduction.
  • Strategies to prevent tantrums and outbursts.
  • Techniques to keep your cool during difficult parenting moments.
  • How to discipline your child so they learn to desire to do the right thing.

 

Gentle Parenting is the long term discipline strategy so many parents are longing for. If you feel like tradition punishments just don't work, you'll be excited to learn the strategies that do. Gentle Foundations will teach you how to discipline with love and respect, without becoming a permissive parent.

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The 1 Thing I Don’t Like About Being a New Mom

by | Jun 29, 2017 | Motherhood | 3 comments

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Becoming a mother for the first time is such a beautiful, magical experience. Hearing your baby’s heartbeat, holding them in your arms for the first time, hearing their first word. So sweet and so precious!

But there is 1 thing about being a new mom that I DON’T like.

And I don’t mean not showering for a week, or the lack of sleep, or being covered in spit up. Honestly those things don’t really phase me. When I became a new mom I made the choice not to be annoyed by stuff like that.

The thing I don’t like about being a new mom is OTHER PEOPLE.

Let me rant a little bit here – other people are so unpredictable, and well crazy, and it’s hard to deal with!

First there’s how people treat you while you are pregnant…Touching you, asking you super personal questions, treating you like you have a chronic illness. When I was pregnant I was blessed with a very smooth pregnancy. I didn’t have that many of the pregnancy “symptoms” but everyone would ask me crazy questions and treat me like I must be this tired, hormonal, puking machine all because of the baby inside me. Umm, no, not so much. When I was pregnant life was pretty normal. I flew on planes, I went ice fishing in Canada, I participated in ministry. Same old, same old. But people drove me nuts by treating me differently but in a rude way.

I had some lady I barely know touch my belly and say, “I prophecy this baby boy will be naughty.” Oh the things I would say and the things I would do to people if I wasn’t saved! Ack! (To be clear this woman was just loosely using the word prophecy and I had a girl anyways, so?)

Then when the baby is born comes another wave of advice and judgement!

First on the advice – I was a VERY prepared first time mom. I knew exactly what I had gotten myself into, how to handle it and I was prepared for potential problems. And if I did need advice I was more likely to ask a medical professional, Dr. Google, or see what Mama Natural had to say about it. So when people would just lay unnecessary advice on me it drove me nuts. I live around my husband’s family and this happened a lot at the beginning until the family started to talk about how Lizzy, “Knows what she’s doing,” and they stopped.

What’s with this assumption that new moms are clueless?

Sometimes I would get advice that was opposite from the truth and I would have to be like, “Well here’s some scientific evidence proving you are wrong, so no, I’m not going to do that!” People would ask me if I was breastfeeding and then immediately tell me I needed to drink Coke to get more breastmilk.

#1. Don’t do that to get more breastmilk.

#2. I had so much breastmilk I had to feed my baby in clever ways so as not to drown her so why are you assuming I need this advice? People be crazy.

The judgment with having a baby is also pretty harsh, but clever because women are sneaky like that sometimes…or maybe I just read into stuff and the mama bear instincts had me on high gear.

But really there are a lot of different right ways to take care of a baby and I don’t need you tell me what’s best for my baby. There are things like formula vs breastfeeding, co-sleeping, disposable diapers vs cloth diapers, etc. These are pretty obvious things people get heated and judgemental about.

But then there are things like people insisting that I put another blanket on my baby.

But she’s not cold?! She will get overheated.

Or being with us in the car and literally freaking out at my husband for having his window open and it’s too much air on the baby even though it was the middle of summer and baby was sound asleep?? And guess what, dad knows what he’s doing too!

Being a new mom is so wonderful but as an introvert who can get very anxious around certain people, I wish I could be in my own little bubble with my baby and husband. When we stop at the gas station I don’t want to hear someone say, “Give me your baby, you can make a new one.” No thank you lady who kind of knows my husband but doesn’t know me.

When we are at the mall and my husband is sitting on a bench with our baby I don’t want a 16 year old girl we don’t know to kiss my baby as she walks by. What!? Yes, that really happened.

People are strange and I just can’t handle them telling me why my baby is crying, or telling me I need to feed her, or giving me super bad advice, or assuming I have no idea what I am doing. I could also talk about the pain of being a new mom in the social media age, but that definitely feels like a whole separate post for another time.

So to everyone who wants to give someone advice, ask yourself if the person even needs or wants it before you give it. And if you want to touch a pregnant lady’s belly or touch someone’s baby ask yourself

#1. Do I know this person at all?

#2. Would it be creepy?

#3. Do I have their permission?

#4. Can I do so without blurting out something really judgemental or weird?

When you became a mom were there things other people did that bothered you too? Even people you didn’t expect it from? We all have a story, tell me in the comments your awkward/annoying/I-don’t-even-know-what-to-say-right-now moment! Stay strong mamas, and run from the weirdos!

The Moving Mama

The Moving Mama

Lizzy Mash is an experienced early childhood educator now living in Africa as a missionary working with children and families.

She teaches Christian moms how to take a more respectful and Christ-like approach to motherhood by using Gentle Parenting strategies.

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3 Comments

  1. Verna

    I love this post!

    I was recently at the markets with baby #2 and while carrying him he was gnawing on my finger. I was having a convo with a lady who was selling cakes. Turns out she has a girl a bit younger than my older boy. Anyway she pointed out my bubba was teething (thought it was pretty obvious!) And then she said ‘well at least you will know what to do when you have a 2nd baby’. Uhh yeah right, she didn’t know how to respond when I replied with ‘this is him’. I wasn’t sure why she felt the need to say that and I was quite happy with bubba being soothed by my finger.

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  2. Sofiya

    Omg I love you! When I was pregnant all the hormones turned me into a very brave and rude person and I would typically reply with “no thanks” which would make older people wide-eyed, surprised that I am ‘desrespecting the elders’ lol

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  3. Joelle

    First of all…YOU ARE MY PEOPLE!! subscribed!

    This was my biggest issue as a new Mom. I love my son, never had any real problem transitioning other than the weird, judgy, awkward comments i got since i was pregnant.

    I used to just shrug it off but now i come back at people telling them to mind their own damn business.

    No one’s ever kissed my baby like that, ewww! I’ve had a few strangers touch his hands or toes and i definitely winced when that happened.

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