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How I Pushed My First Baby Out Quick

by | Jun 30, 2017 | Motherhood | 0 comments

If you’re at all like me you might have some fears about pushing out your baby during delivery, especially if you’re going drug-free! Wouldn’t it be nice to have a quick pushing stage?

I was very nervous about this before I got pregnant, and during the first month or so of my pregnancy, but quickly I learnt more about birth, natural pain remedies, and what I could do to prepare. Every pregnancy is different, just as every woman is different, but my midwife was impressed with my quick pushing stage, and there are a few things she and I can attribute to that.

#1. Mindset

I am a warrior! That’s the mindset I had going into my first ever labour. Instead of fearing the pain, or the potential risks, I thought of myself as someone going into battle.

In the Bible war is often compared to a woman in labour so I took that to motivate me. I am a warrior, and I’m going to kick labour in the butt! Sure it actually kicked me pretty good, but I was pretty determined that I was going to rock labour, and in the end I was going to hold my precious babe in my arms. I have a whole post about how I brought God into my labour which definitely gave me the right mindset. I wasn’t afraid, I knew what was going on, and so when it was time push I was ready to roll!

#2. Pelvic Floor on Point

My midwife attributes my pushing powers to my on-point pelvic floor.

During my pregnancy I made a point to spend at least 20 minutes a day on the exercise ball, and it made a difference! I wasn’t really that faithful until the third trimester, but I followed the instructions for using the ball HERE from Mama Natural and really worked that ball and my pelvis.

Having a strong pelvic floor is a great advantage for you because you need those muscles for the work you are going to do while pushing out that baby! Much like people train for a marathon, I trained for labour! I should do the ball exercises and the pelvic tilts while watching TV in the evening and tried to be as consistent as possible.

#3. Relaxed and Energized

During my 9+ months of hardcore research of all things pregnancy, childbirth and baby, I often came across the concept of relaxing through the pushing stage.

Basically, don’t tense up your entire body, just the part that’s doing the pushing (common tip – it’s like you’re pooping). During my pregnancy, I would practice relaxing my body by focusing on one area of my body at a time to release all the tension so I could learn to relax.

During the time of my pushing though my brain didn’t feel very relaxed! I kept saying, “Brenda, I can’t do this, Brenda!!” (She was my midwife.) I was even thinking that I should have just scheduled a C-section because this was crazy, and she kept telling me the baby was “almost there” and then made me push a lot more. (“Almost there” should just mean one more push, not a million, right?) 

Anyways, I had practiced all this relaxing stuff but during my pushing my brain was all wild and crazy, and I assumed I had thrown all that relaxing stuff out the window – but apparently not so! My husband told me that I was actually very relaxed (he knew that was something I should do during pushing). I wasn’t breaking his knuckles by squeezing his hand so hard (now when I got the stitches that’s another story), and I was actually super relaxed without a lot of tension throughout my body. Instead of wasting energy to tense up my body I focused that energy into my uterus to push my baby out in under 40 minutes. Yay me! Now that’s what I call a quick pushing stage!

I also had the energy to do all that powerful pushing, which is impressive considering I woke up 6 am that day to go get induced, and then baby showed up at 3:36 am, so I wasn’t well rested and I had actually walked around all day to get things going. I did make a point of eating a lot, or eating smart I should say. I kept my body fueled up with the energy I needed to keep going. My birth centre provided meals but I also packed smart snacks. I was energized and ready for labour!

#4. A Few More Minor Things

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Have you heard about drinking red raspberry leaf tea to strengthen your uterus? Not really the thing you hear about if you’re not pregnant I guess. I started drinking it daily in my second trimester to strengthen my uterus for effective contractions during labour.

This is the tea I ordered, and I didn’t mind the taste as a hot tea, or as an iced tea – but I did start to get sick of it towards the end. I had read about it and my midwife suggested it and also to increase the amount towards the end of the pregnancy, which I did. This may have contributed to my overall quick labour for a first time mom, but because I was induced it’s hard to tell. There were some other things I also did during my pregnancy to improve my labor that may or may not have helped me to have an overall better experience


  • Drank a lot of water
  • Ate dates
  • Did Kegels
  • Did stretches

What Else Can Decrease Your Pushing Time?

There are three things that I do look back on and wonder if they could have made my labour and delivery even smoother…

#1. Water Birth

I really wanted a water birth, but because my baby came 11 days late it wasn’t safe because of the meconium. I did labour in water though, which kind of helped but because I had back labor it wasn’t really as helpful as I expected. I really hope to have the opportunity one day to give birth in water, I think it would have kept me calmer mentally and more relaxed physically during the pushing stage.

#2. Position

Since I wasn’t giving birth in water I imagined I would give birth in a “fancy” position like on all fours or squatting. I gave birth at a natural birth center that supports this kind of thing, and my antenatal midwife confirmed I could do this, but the midwife who was there that night was new and not quite totally on board yet with the birth center’s philosophies. I ended up having no choice but to give birth on my back  – which I absolutely did not want, but at that point, I didn’t have the time or energy to insist on it, but hey that’s why I encourage women to get a doula if they have the opportunity to.

#3. More Exercise!

Like I said, I am not a fitness loving kind of person, although I do dream of one day having visible abs and being able to run 5K. I think I should have exercised more before and during my pregnancy just to have increased my stamina for the whole process, and because I bet I would have had a better postpartum journey if I had been at my fittest. Live and learn right?

I hoped for a quick pushing stage, tried to prepare my body for it and I am LUCKY that I got it!

In a nutshell that’s how I pushed my first baby out in under an hour. My midwife told me it was an impressive time for a first time mom and so I felt like the time I spent during my pregnancy to prepare was worth it. These things definitely aren’t a guarantee for everyone as we all have different bodies, different genetics, different positions of our baby, etc. but I think it’s worth looking into and considering for your own pregnancy.

For me, I made a list of “daily habits” to do every day to make sure I was consistent with the things I mentioned, and I believe it paid off in the end. Pushing out my baby was difficult, and it felt like an eternity but I believed that I was strong and I was. Childbirth can be scary but it’s not meant to be.

You’re going to rock it my fellow warrior women!

You might also enjoy this post about 4 gut feelings new moms have and how to embrace them! Check it out here!


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